Gay or not gay or closet gay
Posted by MayCee on April 6, 2008
Yesterday Daniel my former housemate who is now working in Germany drop by Singapore for a short visit on his way back to Philipines for his annual holidays. He stayed with us as we have a spare room. Everything for him is still very familiar as we kept his old bed and cupboard though we moved after he left for Germany.
I swear that everyone who has seen Daniel insists that he is gay. So much so I started asking my gay friends such as Chris and Uncle if their gaydar tells them that he is one of them. Uncle gave a non-commital answer but Daniel really got on well with Uncle and his partner, Jimmy. All my 8 years of knowing Daniel he had no girlfriends or boyfriends. Karen and I suspects that he is a closet gay, maybe suppressing his feelings as Daniel is a deeply religious Catholic. I for one believed that he is not gay as he just didn’t lead the normal gay lifestyle but at times I do have my doubts. He’s still a virgin by the way.
A few clues that we got that he may be a closet gay is when Karen’s former housemate told Karen that he accidentally read Daniel emails to his girlfriend which had some inclination that he has feelings for men. Another is when he confessed to Karen that he stared at a former colleague the whole night while they shared a room in Bali.
When Daniel broke the news to us that he’s considering taking up a position in Germany, we were hoping that he will come out of his closet in Germany where people are more tolerant to gays. Our thoughts were that by being in a foreign country where no ones knows him, he is free to reveal his true self. It has been 10 months since he’s been there and I doubt very much that he has come out! But seeing him again yesterday make me realised that I missed him very much. I missed the times where we would just share a whole chunk of pork knuckles for dinner, watch horror movie and scream together. It was just good to see him again.
jeff said
i think he might be…coz im in the exact situation! well leaving out Germany and replacing it with a island in the pacific! lol
im sure my roommates suspected while i was in university but they dnt show it.
but no one can say for sure if hes denying it or not, hes probably just hiding it like the rest of us hav been doin for all our lives.
but dnt push him out of the closet either, if infact he his?! lol coz theres alot more to consider then just tellin the truth n not havin to hide who u really are. n every1′s situation is diff in some ways….